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Should a pastor have contact with his former congregation in the same community?

Help me with an ethical question. Should a pastor who has moved churches in the same community continue to have dinners, coffee and camping trips with members of his former congregation?

ANSWER: If I understand you correctly, your former pastor moved only a short distance away from your church and is now pastoring another church.

When a pastor leaves a congregation, the congregation actually goes through a grieving process similar to when a person has a death in the family. If the former pastor doesn't move far away, this grieving process doesn't happen as it should.

Perhaps more importantly, if a former pastor is still spending time with people from his former church, the new pastor won't be able to pastor effectively.

No, a former pastor should not be spending time with people in his former church.

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Should a pastor have contact with his former congregation in the same community?

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I disagree
by: Stephen M Young II

It certainly does take wisdom and skill to go about it the right way, but the relationship between the pastor and his brothers and sisters in Christ, many who may have become good friends has merely changed. It has not ended.

The pastor did not die. If he has left on good terms, he will continue to pray for his spiritual brothers and children. He will continue to be a part of their lives. The only thing that has ended is his relationship to the organization.

Care must be taken to establish healthy boundaries, just like in any relationship change, but it would just be plain wrong to sever all ties. That is cruelty. (I cared about you, but I am not allowed to anymore.)


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